I didn't realise it until today but it seems that March has been declared "Remind Yours Truly That They Are Overweight" month. Hurrah! Why didn't anyone explain this to me? That would have made a lot more sense out of the comments I've heard the last few weeks. These scenarios would have been in better perspective for sure:

scenario 1

I am at my gym and I bump into a guy I haven't seen in at least 8 months who used to play in my volleyball club. He looks much more fit and I make sure to pay him a compliment. He said, since I started training more I'm like the "after" in a before and after picture, and you are like the "Before". I heard his comment and chose to ignore it, only to have him repeat it again 30 seconds later.

scenario 2

Chatting to someone who took a picture of me and posted it on Facebook, I was happy with the way it looked and said as much, and that since I've lost about 7 kg (15.5 lbs) since the start of the year, it's really starting to show. His reply: "Cool, but you still look fat."

scenario 3

I go into a shop in Shoreditch on Sunday morning that sells some really nice T-shirts. I am broke and can't afford much except the basics these days, but I wanted to try some of their stuff on for when I do have some cash. The shirts I tried on were all cut too small for my big frame. I ask the salesperson (stupidly, in London's trendiest stick-thin fashion area) if they had anything in a different cut that might fit me. You can guess the reply. "No, he said, "our clothes are cut for smaller guys."

OK. People, as a rule in London, are incredibly narcissitic. I keep good and kind people around me which helps buffer general insensitivity I see all the time. Even so, I am sick and tired of being pointed out that I am overweight.

I always struggled with keeping healthy and I have made huge efforts which I am proud of - going from an insane high of 115kg last year down to 100kg currently. I take a lot of time for fitness and good diets. I have a strong and if I want to show my hand, forceful personality. But I am worn down by stupid and thoughtless comments like those above.

If people think they are being funny, I can sink to their level and pick on other physical attributes that may not be easily redeemed - for example, in Scenario 1, I could have said, "I might be the 'before' picture, but at least my penis is in proportion with the rest of my body." His, I have to say, is not. It's small. There, that's much better, isn't it?

Listen, watch what you say to me about my weight. I don't think it's funny, I struggle with staying healthy and at the moment I am doing alright. Plus I don't consider myself that heavy, I like the way I look these days, and that's most important to me. This still does not make me a target for your own insecurities, or your view of what is funny. Think about how it would feel if I cut down your personal appearance, hitting the bullseye on things you don't like about yourself - you won't like what comes out of my mouth, even if I don't mean it.